Admit it, you really would like to know the true relationship status of that guy you met at the club last week. Is he really single or is he married? Is he engaged? Are you being too cautious? We say no! Imagine the scenario where you don’t check up on the status and you date for a few months. You start to really fall for this amazing guy. The phone rings. You pick it up and there’s another woman on the other end of the line. He’s living with her…or even worse…they are married. What do you do now with your broken heart?
Stop. Rewind. Go back to that very first moment when your instincts kicked in. Save yourself from the potential hurt and figure it out from the start.
Don’t worry, if you have never checked someone out online before it’s ok. Don’t feel like you’re invading their privacy. Think of it as a great way to protect your heart. Sometimes you can find this information on Facebook or other forms of social media. Other times and with increased privacy settings it can be challenging to find this information out without the use of an advanced search.
Sometimes you might actually just want to know if they’re being truthful about previous relationships. If they’re lying about having been previously married what else might they lie to you about? In a perfect world, we could trust people we date and take them at face value.
You can start with social. Check for photos and look on the web for photos to see where they’ve been and what they’ve been up to. How old are they? Oddly enough, people often lie about their age. Are you really dating a 40 something man or is the guy you just met a little closer to 60?
If you do decide to do a quick checkup, we’re here to help. Use Privateeye.com to search for previous divorces or marriages. You can search old addresses if you have one to see if they owned a home with someone else.